By Lynette Nyman
March 9, 1999
New leaders are appearing in Minnesota's Hmong-American population. In a
community where elder clan leaders were once the primary voice of authority and
counsel, young men and women have emerged to take their place. They're not as
familiar with Hmong ritual and tradition, but they know how to maneuver in
American society. It's a big change, especially for the women who could never
hold leadership positions in traditional Hmong society.
Hmong-Americans are dealing with a power shift within their community.
HMONG SOCIETY IS BASED ON A CENTURIES-OLD SYSTEM of nations and clans. There's
the white, blue, and black Hmong. Within each of those nations, there are clans
such as the Vang, Lyfoung, Her, Xiong and others. The clan system shapes much of
Hmong life. For example, marrying someone in your own clan is forbidden.
Ancestry is traced through male ancestors and Hmong men are the clan leaders.
They advise their members and help resolve disputes. They also negotiate
marriages and how much a groom's family must pay his bride's family to have her.
Someone like Chai Fue Xiong could do that. A man in his 50s, Xiong has been a
CIA-trained soldier, a clan leader, and a business owner. He's lived in
Minnesota for 15 years.
Xiong :
When I arrived in the Twin Cities I was hired as a
mediator or family counselor with Lao Family Community. After a year, the program ended so I was laid off. So then I start my own Asian grocery store where I worked for many years until last year when I sold the store to start a car-selling business.
Selling used cars requires the art of negotiation, so Xiong might have a leg up
on his competition. But he's most concerned about problems the Hmong face here
that they rarely experienced in Laos such as divorce, depression, and violent
crime. Many clan leaders like Xiong feel powerless to help those in need,
especially as young people seek assistance from the outside. Xiong says
most clan leaders are watching from the sidelines.
Xiong:
Yes, we are. Even I am. But since we are here we
can't do anything. We don't have the power to exercise our thought. We still - if
we heard that someone was raped and murdered - we love the individuals, we care
about the individuals. If we heard that someone has been murdered, we are in
tears. We care about the individuals, about the family. Even if we heard if
someone has left the family and leaving the children at home and not returning,
we feel sad and sorry about the family, but we are just not in a position to
help resolve or address the issues.
Clan leaders believe the mainstream system won't provide long-term stability and
cultural identity for the Hmong people. But a new generation of leaders is
trying to rise to the challenge of bridging the gap between traditional Hmong
values and the realities of life in the U.S.
Hang:
Do you think that as a community, as a larger community, and as a Hmong community - for those of us who are Hmong - that we really accept violence as a part of our lives and that's why we have it?
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May Kao Hang is speaking about violence in the Hmong community to Century College
students in North St. Paul. Hang is concerned about many of the same problems
and issues as the older, male clan leaders. Her presentation is about a violence
prevention program called "Hmoob Thaj Yeeb" or "Hmong Peace. "
As the project's coordinator, Hang is often in the public's eye; quite an accomplishment
for a Hmong woman who's 26 years old. And yet, it's not surprising at all given
Hang's family. Her father is a respected clan leader. Hang says because of that ,
she's always had an interest in public service.
Hang:
I remember, as a little girl, shadowing my father at different
meetings. And probably because he didn't have a son at the time. When I grew up
and then my mom had a boy then he started doing that, but I was really kind of
his sidekick for years. And so, I think from age eight or nine and you first start
thinking about the world, I was kind of into public life and public service and
never really left it.
In traditional Hmong society, women's leadership is indirect. They give advice
behind the scenes. So Hang's high public profile has brought her both ridicule
and praise. She's somewhat odd for Hmong cultural standards. She married late
and has only one child. And she's an outspoken, educated woman with firm ideas
about justice and equality. She says while watching her father and other clan
leaders mediate disputes, she found certain patterns troubling.
Hang:
That whoever it was who was distributing justice wasn't
being fair to the woman. And this isn't always the case. There are certain
things you can have the family do to take responsibility for the violence that's
happening, but nine times out of 10, I would say it would be a message to the woman
to be patient. He will change. Be patient. It really aggravated me, I think, and
it still does. And if that's what being a leader means, stepping forward and
saying "you know this needs to change," then, yeah, I guess it's something that I
want to do.
Hang is one of a new breed of Hmong leaders. Unlike clan leaders steeped in old
ways anchored in the homeland, these young women and men speak fluent English,
understand mainstream social and political systems, and head programs and
organizations. This is not to say traditional clan leaders are completely
displaced. Many continue to seek counsel from clan leaders before going to
others for help. But Dr. Yang Dao, a scholar who now works with Saint Paul
Public Schools, says the shift in leadership is permanent.
Dao:
Our Hmong in the United States, as well as in the world, are
looking for new leadership. And Hmong leadership has already
shifted from the old generation to the young generation who are more educated,
more professionally competitive, more aware of international evolution. That means
Hmong leadership, the young people, are more competent to lead the Hmong
community to social, economic, and political development.
Dao says there's room for both new and old leaders: the economic and political
leaders who understand the American ways as well as cultural leaders who know
Hmong customs.
Dao:
I talk to my Hmong countrymen. I said "even though I have a
Ph.D., don't ask me to negotiate for your marriage because I don't know the
marriage rites. I don't know anything about that. So for you young people, you
have to go and ask the old Hmong leaders; the old Hmong traditional,
knowledgeable people."
But the young people are moving further and further away from Hmong traditions.
Still, many clan leaders cling to the hope the old ways will enjoy a resurgence
and find a place in the Unites States. Others are prepared to accept and let go.
No matter the path, Hmong culture in America is rapidly transforming under the
pressures of youth, assimilation and the need to survive.